Difficulties of love All people dream about love. On the one hand this statement seems rather banal and self-evident. Seeking one's life companion is natural for any human being. On the other hand pulled experiences of mankind prove again and again that love is an extremely risky adventure. It is more likely to bring suffering to a person than to give him/her happiness. Love and happiness very often exclude each other but people know that when they are combined, they can work miracles. They know it from various love-story novels and films and want to experience the same. It resembles a fruit-machine. If you are a gambler, you can easily understand what we mean here. When you come to a one-armed bandit, you understand that your chances to win a great sum of money are minor, but the slightest hope that you do have one chance for thousand push you to risk. You lose your money again and again but go on playing, thinking that each next time you will win. The same happens with love. Negative intimate experience remains in the past and we make another try to find our love. Why does love exist? Is it a mere manifestation of the reproductive instinct? This point of view is groundless. Animals don't experience love and it doesn't prevent them from normal reproduction. Besides, they seem to cope with this task more efficiently in comparison with human beings, which have an ability to love. It turns out that love often hampers reproduction. But for love people would have fewer problems and could easily build interpersonal relationships, though we must admit that in this case they would be very short. Let's go back to suffering which love can bring. We have mentioned that negative love experience doesn't divert people from seeking their true love. This is true about the majority of people, but there are individuals, who run to extremes. For them it is so difficult to go through disappointment and misery caused by unhappy love, that they totally escape from reality and become ascetic. They retire to a monastery or leave for another place of residence, etc. There are people, who don't believe in love. They argue that it doesn't exist, that it is a myth. Their confidence is very surprising. Why are they so assured that love doesn't exist? Perhaps this point of view is dictated by negative love experience of their parents, who passed these thoughts to their children. People, who don't believe in love don't simply live without love, they fear to meet it subconsciously. They are afraid of suffering it can bring. They are rather pessimistic about love and don't believe that it can make them happy. As you see it, love is many-sided. It can make people happy but at the same time it can turn into a tragedy. Love can bring many problems and difficulties. It can even lead a person to suicide. The more we talk about these negative sides of love the more unattractive it seems. Such talks are unpleasant for romanticists, because they attribute love to all the best. However, these talks are profitable. They can make a person take a sober view of things and be ready to face difficulties. The more we talk about negative sides of love the more chances we have to escape them. Welcome to our site about love difficulties. Let's discuss problems, which love can bring and think together how to avoid them or at least meet them with dignity. |