Love and pernicious habits Love is a feeling which makes us idealize our beloved person. When we are in love, we tend to overlook all his/her drawbacks and shortcomings. We can forgive this person many things even when we understand that it is wrong. But with the lapse of time we take a sensible view of things and understand that our beloved one is far from being ideal. Moreover, we often become irritated by some of their habits, including smoking, alcoholism and so on. Gradually this irritation grows and our relationships go through hard trial period. It is difficult to predict what will be stronger – our love or our wish to live normal life with a normal person. No matter how strong our love can be, we don't forget about common sense and understand that we are responsible for our children and for their future as well. We often lack wisdom and don't know how to act in this difficult situation. Many people think that it is impossible to make their spouse give up pernicious habits and prefer to leave this person. However things can be changed for the better. The main reason which prevents a person from returning to normal life is unhealthy atmosphere in family. For example, when a husband returns home drunk, his wife begins to condemn him for his drunkenness. Constant quarrels and scandals don't favour reconsideration of one's habits and aggravate this addiction. Only the atmosphere of love and sympathy can make a person keep to the straight and narrow. Love and pernicious habits are sometimes incompatible, but it doesn't mean that a person, who suffers from alcoholism or drug addiction, deserves to be left by his/her half. It means that wrong habits and incorrect conduct can be conquered by the all-triumphant power of love. |