Love for idols Love for idols occurs very often among people of all age groups, though the bulk of these people are teenagers, whose inner world and values haven't fully formed yet. They only learn to love and don't have enough experience to understand their feelings and emotions and sort them out. They are inclined to extremes and these inclinations are seen most vividly in love issues. Love for idols is not treated as love in the true sense of this word by psychologists. They consider it as a deviation from normal psychological state. It is very hard to find people with normal self-esteem among fans. The matter is that the main condition to become someone's fan is to have low self-esteem. Teenagers often have problems with their identity. They can't get accustomed to their new body, suffer form numerous hang-ups and dream about their ideal. Their own ideas of an ideal person are not yet formulated and they take readymade examples, which are usually prompted by their peers. Famous people, singers and actors become their patterns of ideal people. As you see, fans in love think only about themselves, they need self-actualisation and self-confidence. Their feelings are caused not by the object of their affection, but by teenager's inhibitions and problems. Famous performers exploit neurotic feelings of teenagers actively by means of singing songs about unhappy love. Love and neuroses are closely connected with each other by the so-called neurotic conception of love. The main difference between real love and neurotic need is the fact that love implies the sense of affection, while neurotics need self-confidence and calm most of all, and love itself is a secondary feeling for them. If a person needs someone's love to get rid of anxiety, he/she strives for any kind of affection for complacency. Love for idols is basically inherent in young girls. The main reason for that is their early need for love. Girls usually can't find their suitable match among their peers, because it is very trivial. Besides, girls have subconscious fear that their dreams may come true and one of the boys can love back. Girls usually fail to understand what they should do with this reciprocity. That is why they prefer to love unattainable famous people. Thus they can fancy as mush as they want and not bother themselves with consequences of this kind of love. These dreams, though they are very far from reality are quite normal for young girls. Each girl experiences similar feelings once or twice in her life. There is no need to try to fight with this love. Everything will be settled by itself with the lapse of time. |