Remote husband Our work sometimes takes too much time and we lack communication with our dear people. When we come home, we are exhausted and the only thing we want after each hard working day is to lie on the sofa and relax. Instead of talking to our husbands, wives and children we keep silence trying to divert our attention from our everyday problems and restore our inner spiritual balance. We get up early in the morning, quickly make our morning rituals and hurry up to work. We are absent at home all day long and are exhausted in the evening. This schedule excludes communication with our family members and makes us apathetic and indifferent to our family problems, our children's marks and their life in general. Notice, that we live at home and have an opportunity to see our family members everyday. Have you ever thought that there are people who can see their spouses once a week, once half a year and even once a year? There are professions which make people be absent at home for a long period of time. These professions are long-distance truck drivers, seamen, military men and others. If you think that long working days can spoil your marital relationship, then what about these families, which can gather in a body only several times a year. How do these people live and how can they stay apart from each other for such long periods of time? Wives, whose husbands work far from home often complain, that it is very difficult for them to keep going without their husbands. They have to keep house alone, they have to learn to do home repairs, raise children alone, etc. Besides, they experience sexual discontent. Such a living is very difficult to stand. It is very difficult for a woman to be a devil for household work. To make the things still worse, women understand that there can't be any reasonable way out of the situation. Some of them, being unable to stand these difficulties, file for divorce. This act is likely to be disapproved by relatives, friends and society. Women, who commit this act don't appreciate it themselves. On doing this, they suffer not less than their husbands. On the other hand, this remote love has its advantages. The less you see your husband, the less are your chances to quarrel with each other. You must admit that living apart is sometimes easier to overcome, than constant scandals, having it out and so on. Those who have gone through an unhappy marriage may even envy those families, which maintain friendly relations due to lack of opportunity to see each other. Psychologists claim that we must have a rest from each other from time to time. Seeing each other everyday is harmful to marital relationships. That is why if your husband works far away, you are likely to escape problems in your relationships. In general, you must plan your family life in advance. When you marry a person, you probably know that you will have to put up with difficulties. You must take into account all problems you are likely to face and only after thinking this stuff over, you must decide whether to marry this person or to find another applicant, whom you will see every day. You may think that these tips are too earthly and don't mention love. Yes, you are right, but it is done on purpose. If you really love this person, you will be able to overcome all possible difficulties. Love will help you to overcome your boredom during long periods of being apart from each other. |